Incontinence after surgery

I had the radical prostectomy on Oct 19.  The catheter was taken out on the 29th and I am still totally incontinent a month later.  All the doctor told me was it could take 2 -3 months.  What are some of your experiences with incontinence?  Its driving me nuts.  Any tricks anyone learned?  The drip drip drip is disappointing.  I am in good physical condition with good muscle strength.  I clench when I stand up but my mind wonders for a split second and I piss my pants.  Do I have to do excersises or anything or will it go away on its own?